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Optimism Tips
“ The secret to happiness is in forming strong, supportive relationships that serve as a buffer against the pressures and emotional isolation of modern life.”
- Creating Optimism by Bob Murray and Alicia Fortinberry
Eight Fundamentals of Happiness
In Creating Optimism Bob Murray and Alicia Fortinberry reveal the fundamentals of value happiness and 8 things you can do today to start to create happiness and optimism.
1. Connection to others. Make a list of friends you haven't contacted in a while but would like to, and call them.
2. Autonomy. Go to as many local establishments rather than chains as possible and strike up a conversation with the proprietor or service people.
3. Self-Esteem. Catch yourself every time you make a self-deprecating comment.
4. Competence. Ask the people in your life to tell you when they think you've done something well.
5. Purpose. Ask your friends and acquaintances to describe what they see as their purpose beyond making money or caring for others.
6. Connection to your body. Throw out all your magazines that feature impossibly perfect-looking men or women on the covers.
7. Connection to nature. Walk in a park or other natural area for twenty minutes each day. Pat at least one dog and talk to its owner.
8. Spirituality. Make a list of all the things you believe in that give you comfort.
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Nine Rules for Living with a Depression Sufferer
In Creating Optimism Bob Murray shows how you can cope with living or working with a depressed person, and contribute positively to their healing.
Rule 1. Take time to understand the condition.
Rule 2. Keep in mind that depression is a real illness and he or she can't just “snap out of it.”
Rule 3. Ask about feelings and encourage him or her to talk about underlying issues.
Rule 4. Admit your own powerlessness against the depression.
Rule 5. Don't try to rescue.
Rule 6. Don't make excuses or become codependent with his or her denial.
Rule 7. Encourage him or her to seek help.
Rule 8. Identify your own behavioral patterns, including how his or her depression may be triggering your inner saboteur.
Rule 9. Don't be afraid to tell him or her clearly what you need.
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